Theology of Marriage

Theology is defined as the study of the nature of God and religious beliefs or the compilation of beliefs within a religion. As Christians, studying the nature of God should be something that is exciting and we long to do, but many Christians avoid theology. They fear if they look too closely into the nature of God they would find it is not logical to believe in Him or His power. This is why it is important for us to help enlighten people to understand the truth about theology and how it living a Christian life is not simply blind following the blind, but through our understanding of theology God will bring new insight into every area of our lives.

I will be talking about how theology and marriage walk hand in hand. When we understand the theology of the family or marriage it will help us to have marriages that glorify Christ. In order to understand marriage we must first understand God. In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth and after He had created everything He desired to create a being that He could have fellowship with.[1] God created Adam the first man. Then God found that Adam needed a counterpart and nothing else in creation would work so God created Eve the first woman. Then God brought Eve to Adam and they were together. God’s heart or nature is love as seen in 1 John 4:8, “God is love.”[2] In Genesis at the creation of man God created a woman to be with him; this was when God established marriage. God saw fit to impart that love nature into Adam through the creation of Eve. Without Eve, Adam did not have something or someone to love as God loved him. At the very heart of marriage is the nature of God; love. To put it another way; understanding the theology of God’s love we can understand marriage and His desire in our marriages.

Paul in Ephesians 5 goes on to help us understand this love relationship God established between a man and a woman. “Husbands, love your wives…the wife must respect her husband.”[3] Husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church and wives are to respect their husbands as the church submits and respects Christ. What does this mean? God established a union between a husband and a wife that mirrors the relationship between the Father God and the Son. God the Father is the head just as the husband is the head of the house and the Son is submissive to the Father as Paul states a wife is to submit to her husband. “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church”[4] Paul states that Christ is the head of the church, but He is submissive to the Father as seen clearly in John, “Jesus gave them this answer: “Very truly I tell you, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does.”[5] And when He said, “For I did not speak on my own, but the Father who sent me commanded me to say all that I have spoken.”[6]

The relationship between the Father and Son is also seen again in Genesis 2:24, “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”[7] When as man and a woman are united they become one flesh and the Father and Son are also one; “I and the Father are one.”[8] Through this understand of Theology we can understand that the marriage relationship is a picture of the Father and Son. This helps us to understand how we should be treating each other within our marriages. “In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body.”[9] Just as Paul said it is important to understand that a husband and wife are one and need to treat each other as they would treat their own body.

With this new understanding what can you do today to connect with your spouse and love or respect them as God has called each of us to do?

God Bless!

[1] Genesis 1:1 (NIV).

[2] 1 John 4:8b (NIV).

[3] Ephesians 5:25a & 33b (NIV).

[4] Ephesians 5:22-23 (NIV).

[5] John 5:19 (NIV).

[6] John 12:49 (NIV).

[7] Genesis 2:24 (NIV).

[8] John 10:30 (NIV).

[9] Ephesians 5:28-29 (NIV).

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